Almost a year ago I connected with R.B. O'Brien on Twitter (@rbobrien120). She, like me, was an Erotic Romance author with a few books under her belt. My first impression of R.B. was one of awe and respect. She is a sweet soul with a generous heart, who is always available to lend her support to anyone she meets. That was how our connection began.
Over the course of the summer, which turned into fall, then winter - seasons changed, I got to know R.B. a bit more through our association and involvement with an amazing group of writers known as The Wicked Pen Writers. We are all featured on the website mrblackthorne.com
She is a fun gal with a great spirit. She loves people, dancing, and most of all, writing (her writing is beautiful). She is a emotional, sensitive, charismatic person - one of those people you fall in love with when you get to know them. She is the author of the highly acclaimed Natalie's Edge series - a series that delves into the world of BDSM, filled with darkness and emotion, and love?
Earlier this year, Ms. O'Brien has moved on to another troubled character, William Thorne. He is dark, damaged, yet there is much more to him than meets the eye. He meets young, naive, yet strong Rose. Their journey is filled with angst, strife, secrets, and is so emotional.
As R.B. was preparing to launch book two of the Thorne series, I asked if she would be willing to take a few (maybe more than a few, lol) minutes of her time to answer a few questions so us readers and fans could get to know her a little bit more. She generously obliged. I will share the interview below, so sit back, and enjoy getting to know her a bit more.
Thank you so much for being willing to answer a few questions for me, R.B.! I am truly grateful.
Thank you for taking the time out of your busy life to do this for me. You amaze me. (Side note from me: You amaze me too, R.B.)
Question 1) You are an amazingly talented writer with a flair for making us fall in love with dark, broken, emotionally damaged or unavailable men. What is it about those types of characters that leads you to write their stories?
Awww. Thank you for the kind words. You, yourself are an amazing writer. This is such a very difficult question to answer because there are answers, but they are quite complicated and involved and I don’t feel like spilling my dirty innards all over this page this early in the interview. LOL. It’s dark inside there. J
At the core of it, put most simplistically, it’s what I’m drawn to in real life and it’s what turns me on in not only my writing but also in what I like to read. I guess that’s pretty blunt, but that’s the truth of it. They, um, well, these men get me excited. J If it didn’t blow my hair back, I wouldn’t write about them. I am just attracted to alpha, dominant men in general. I’ve always been drawn to the dark that way. Being raised Catholic, falling in love way too young with the wrong boy, having slightly masochistic sexual tendencies, all contribute. I also know there is a deeper answer and I do think I’ve come to understand the psychology behind it.
I guess at its core is my attraction to the dark, the darkness of the forbidden, the complex, the not easily attained. But I’m not attracted to complete darkness. Not at all actually. The darkness has to have streaks of light that are bright rays of moral compass. I think we are all broken in many ways and there is something about that tortured soul that speaks to me. I know there is good in everyone. And perhaps I write those characters to show that everyone has that capacity to find that goodness within themselves. (Do I dare mention the story of Darth Vader?) Sometimes it just takes another person who can bring that out. There is something achingly romantic about that one woman who can help the broken man to see that he’s worthy of love. It’s that journey to redemption that I find the most rewarding. There’s so much more I could say about this. It could be a whole 10-page essay, clearly. I’ve only scratched the surface. I’m sure your readers can read between the lines. If not, direct them to my blog. Yup. Innards splattered everywhere in bright Technicolor.
Question 2) When it comes to your writing, do you have any regrets? (I.e. Unfinished story, ending you aren’t happy with, not enough development in your opinion, etc.)
No regrets about writing. None. I just wish I didn’t have to hide it, that what I write wasn’t seen as such a taboo.
Question 3) You are a busy woman. You teach, dance, write, and blog, among other things. Is there anything you haven’t yet done that you would like to do?
Yes. Lots. ;) Travel is one of them. I am tackling a life-long fear this summer, traveling alone for a brief stint. I’ll leave it at that. But I couldn’t be more frightened and invigorated.
Question 4:) When it comes to your writing career what is one of your biggest goals? And are you doing anything specifically right now to reach that goal?
I think my biggest goal for writing is to get back to why I began it the first place. It was a way for me to relax. To think. To express the things in my mind that gnawed at me. Lately it’s becoming a bit too much about promotion. I do want success, something I didn’t think I’d care about it. But I do. I’ve discovered that I do. It’s my personality type. The do-good daughter syndrome. The perfectionist in me that probably comes from dance especially. I just like to do well. I like to put my best foot forward. I care. But I am also discovering that the things I truly love, dancing, teaching, writing and the like, have really nothing to do with success. It’s just this innate thing. It’s almost a peace. As I get older, I’m realizing the things that I continue to do, I do because I genuinely love them. There is no perfect. And I’m embracing that fact. It’s freeing honestly. But sometimes, the fun is being sucked out of writing and then it becomes a burden rather than a love. And I don’t ever want that to happen. I am fortunate that I love my full-time career. I thrive at that. So if writing does ever become too much a big game or only about promotion, I’ll leave the publishing world as quickly as I came to it, because that’s not what it’s about for me. I can never stop writing. I can’t. Trust me. I’ve tried before! And Grumpy Cat ain’t got nothing on me. But some days the bullshit does take its toll and I have remember to center myself when I begin to get overwhelmed, I guess, and to stop, breathe, and remember why I write. I have a voice within me that wants to be heard, with or without anyone else ever seeing it. My goal is to never forget that.
Question 5) What is your greatest aspiration in life?
Question 6) We know you on Twitter, and especially Facebook, but where else can we find R.B. O’Brien?
Everything you may be interested to know can somehow be found on my website. rbobrien.weebly.com
Thank you, R.B., for taking the time to delve into yourself a bit and give us a taste of who you are, and why you write what you write.
Before I let you go, R.B. also has a novella out (pictured below). It follows along the lines of what R.B. is known for. ;)
Where to Find R.B. O'Brien